We all know the fairy tale. How it’s supposed to happen. Since we were old enough to be plunked in front of a television we’ve known that women don’t save themselves; they are saved by a prince.
I see the effect of this mindset all around me. Women jogging at night alone in an area where there was a recent rape, women who won’t carry mace or learn self defense or learn about guns because either:
A: It won’t happen to me, or
B: Someone will save me, obviously
If you want to believe in a fairy tale, that’s fine. But this blog is about being a damsel in defense, not a damsel in distress. Daydream all you want about the day your prince rides up on his horse to wake you, or the day your bad boy hero beats up a gang of thugs, or the day you are rescued by the pirate king. But please ladies, I’m begging you, don’t let that interfere with your responsibility to keep yourself safe.
The rescue fantasy is pervasive and popular, look at the Twilight series for example. There’s no sex in the first three, but women adore them. Why? Because Edward ALWAYS saves her. In fact, he uses his mind reading abilities and his super human strength to do this.
Ladies this should be a wake-up call. Normal men do not read minds. Normal men are human. Even if you have one that cares about you and loves you, how is he going to always be there?
“Okay”, you say, “you have a good point, I don’t expect to be rescued magically”. Then I ask, do you know any self defense? Have you explored your self defense weapon options?
“No”, you may say, “nothing like that will happen to me”.
If you are one of the lucky few in this world who has not been a victim and does not know other victims, you should be all the more motivated to keep it that way. Don’t bank on being lucky. Assume your time will come. Are you going to be ready?
This blog is about women deciding to be their own knight in shining armor. This is about women in my generation deciding not to be victims. We don’t have to be men, we don’t have to hate men. We have to consider ways to fight as women, because we aren’t as physically strong (sorry, it’s just the truth, in most cases, we are smaller and weaker). We have to think of ugly scenarios and plan for the worst, because we are more likely to be targets of particularly disgusting forms of attack. We have to get real and put the fantasy aside.
So I’ll be talking about female considerations for self-defense, martial arts, concealed carry and anything else in the defense world. Lucky for us most of the activities that make us safer are a lot of fun, not to mention the security of knowing that you’ve done all you can to be safe. And then if you want to LET a guy save you, go ahead.