Your Own Knight in Shining Armor

We all know the fairy tale.  How it’s supposed to happen.  Since we were old enough to be plunked in front of a television we’ve known that women don’t save themselves; they are saved by a prince.

I see the effect of this mindset all around me.  Women jogging at night alone in an area where there was a recent rape, women who won’t carry mace or learn self defense or learn about guns because either:

A: It won’t happen to me, or

B: Someone will save me, obviously

If you want to believe in a fairy tale, that’s fine.  But this blog is about being a damsel in defense, not a damsel in distress.  Daydream all you want about the day your prince rides up on his horse to wake you, or the day your bad boy hero beats up a gang of thugs, or the day you are rescued by the pirate king.  But please ladies, I’m begging you, don’t let that interfere with your responsibility to keep yourself safe.

The rescue fantasy is pervasive and popular, look at the Twilight series for example.  There’s no sex in the first three, but women adore them.  Why? Because Edward ALWAYS saves her.  In fact, he uses his mind reading abilities and his super human strength to do this.

Ladies this should be a wake-up call.  Normal men do not read minds.  Normal men are human.  Even if you have one that cares about you and loves you, how is he going to always be there?

“Okay”, you say, “you have a good point, I don’t expect to be rescued magically”.  Then I ask, do you know any self defense?  Have you explored your self defense weapon options?

“No”, you may say, “nothing like that will happen to me”.

If you are one of the lucky few in this world who has not been a victim and does not know other victims, you should be all the more motivated to keep it that way.  Don’t bank on being lucky.  Assume your time will come.  Are you going to be ready?

This blog is about women deciding to be their own knight in shining armor.  This is about women in my generation deciding not to be victims.  We don’t have to be men, we don’t have to hate men.  We have to consider ways to fight as women, because we aren’t as physically strong (sorry, it’s just the truth, in most cases, we are smaller and weaker).  We have to think of ugly scenarios and plan for the worst, because we are more likely to be targets of particularly disgusting forms of attack.  We have to get real and put the fantasy aside.

So I’ll be talking about female considerations for self-defense, martial arts, concealed carry and anything else in the defense world.  Lucky for us most of the activities that make us safer are a lot of fun, not to mention the security of knowing that you’ve done all you can to be safe.  And then if you want to LET a guy save you, go ahead.



Women and Concealed Carry

Concealed carry class is not about being a killer, or being a gun-nut.  It’s about protection.  Even so as a fairly defense minded individual I waited far too long to go take the class.  Until a couple of days ago, I agreed with people’s right to concealed carry, but I thought since I wasn’t sure I could take a life, I shouldn’t bother carrying a gun.

Then Sheriff Richard Mack come to talk at my school.  I didn’t agree with everything he said.  But one thing he said stood out to me:  “One armed citizen could have had a chance at stopping the Virginia massacre”.  Woah, my willingness to be armed could save innocent lives?  Well that was it, I signed up that night and took the course three days later.

And. I. Loved. It.

I’ve shot handguns before.  It’s a lot of fun.  But I didn’t know sitting on a couch learning about guns could be so entertaining.  I know so much more than I did yet still know so little.  I recommend everyone take the course.  Not only is it extremely inexpensive for the amount of instruction you get, but it is a lot of fun.

You may be a person who will never carry or even willingly touch a gun.  I still recommend this course.  What would you do if you needed to make sure a gun was unloaded?  Do you know how to tell?  How to remove a clip?  Do you know all the parts of a gun?  How to hold one if you needed to?  Do you know laws about using force, even unarmed force, in your state?

Women don’t think about protection as much as men do, in my experience.  Good men I have known have innate desires to protect, and it’s a theme that is commonly explored in media.  However women are protective too, in a very different way.  Ever seen a mama bear?  This is why the comment Sheriff Mack made about Virginia Tech affected me.  When I picture someone I care about at the mercy of an armed gunman, my opinion of my ability to use a gun changes drastically.  I imagine it’s the same for a mother picturing her child in danger, but women in general seem to be compassionate towards those in need, and some often care more about safety of others above their own.

The people who want to hurt people already have their guns.  I believe it is our responsibility to ask ourselves if more good hearted, sound minded people shouldn’t explore concealed carry to balance the scales.  And we need at the very least to be educated even about the things we fear or hate most.  I’m not asking you to be pro-gun.  I’m asking you to be pro-thought, and pro-open, and to make sure you are checking all of your options and not letting prejudice or gentleness get in the way of considering all the ways to stay safe in this world.

Thanks for reading,